Advice For Parents
Of 13-18 year olds, only 31% say they have had a conversation about dating abuse with a parent in the past year, making it the least discussed among serious topics asked about, including school/grades (95%), family finances (78%), and alcohol (71%).1
Talk to your son or daughter about dating and healthy relationships. Creating this open dialogue will help with future discussions. If you think your child is being abused by their boyfriend or girlfriend, talk to them about it.
What to do:
- Just listen. Your son or daughter may need to “vent” about what happened.
- Tell them that you are sorry the abuse happened and it is not their fault.
- Be supportive of your son or daughter. Reach out to others like coaches, teachers, friends, etc. These people can be helpful.
- If you need help talking to your son or daughter, download Liz Claiborne’s Love Is Not Abuse iPhone application (app). The app is designed to help parents better understand dating abuse and what to do if they think their child is being abused by their boyfriend or girlfriend.
What NOT to do:
- Wait for them to come to you.
- Judge them. Your son or daughter may not share anything with you if they feel like you think they have done something wrong.
- Try to provide explanations or solutions for what has happened.
- Give advice, unless they ask for it.
You and your son or daughter may want to find out what services and options are available. Contact your local service provider. To find a local domestic violence program, call the NYS Domestic and Sexual Violence Hotline at 1-800-942-6906 (English) or 1-800-942-6908 (Spanish).Get Help
- Impact of the Economy and Parent/Teen Dialogue on Dating Relationships and Abuse. Liz Claiborne, Inc. 2009.