Is My Partner Abusing Me?
It’s not always easy to know if what is happening in your relationship is abuse. Here are some questions that might be able to help you figure it out.
Does Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend:
- Call you names or put you down?
- Embarrass you in front of other people?
- Check up on you through text messages or phone calls to see where you are and who you are with?
- Tell you what kind of clothes or makeup you can and can't wear?
- Keep you away from your friends or family? Insist you spend all your time together?
- Have to know where you are and who you are with at all times?
- Get angry if you don't answer or return their call, or if they can't reach you?
- Physically hurt you? For example, kicking, hitting, shoving, grabbing, etc.?
- Threaten to hurt you, your friends, family, or pets?
- Force you to do things you don't want to do? Alcohol? Drugs? Sex?
- Tell you the abuse is your fault?
- Threaten to hurt themselves or others if you break up with them?
Has This Happened To You?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, you might want to speak to a counselor at your school, talk to your parents or another trusted adult (like a teacher or coach), or call your local domestic violence program; NYS Domestic and Sexual Violence Hotline at 1-800-942-6906 (English) or 1-800-942-6908 (Spanish), to talk with someone there about dating abuse.Get Help