Ending Your Relationship
Ending a relationship, even an abusive one, can be harder than it seems. Even though friends and family may pressure you to simply leave your partner, it may not feel that easy. It is normal for you to feel scared and confused about leaving someone who has been a big part of your life.
If you decide you want to end an abusive relationship, it is a good idea to talk to someone first. A parent, school counselor or social worker, or domestic violence advocate can help you think about your situation and decide how to handle it. Breaking up with an abuser can be very dangerous and even if it’s the right thing to do, it could make the abuse worse. It’s important that you plan ahead and come up with a safety plan.
Here are some things to keep in mind and talk through with someone who understands dating abuse if you are breaking up with an abusive boyfriend or girlfriend:
It’s important that you plan ahead and come up with a safety plan when ending an abusive relationship.
- If you feel unsafe in breaking up with your partner, you might want to do it over the phone, by e-mail, or in public with a friend nearby.
- You may miss your partner or worry about being alone.Talk to your friends and family who can help support you.
- Set your Facebook/MySpace profile to private; block your ex, and/or remove them from your friends list.
- Don’t explain yourself over and over again. It doesn’t matter how many times you give your reasons, it will never be good enough for a controlling or abusive partner.
- If you continue to receive harassing phone calls and text messages, you may want to consider having their phone number blocked, or if necessary, having your phone number changed.
- Keep any evidence such as harassing text messages or voicemails in case you decide to go to the police.
- If attending parties or events where your ex may be, go with a friend.
If you ever feel like you are in immediate danger, call 911.Get Help